~Got To Try~

When I was in the HellHome, there was a little guy, named

Joe.. a real Dearie.. he and I were buddies... Joe was a DAK.

Diabetes.. He was a little small Italian man, and boy did he

have a temper when things didn't go his way and he told you

so.. He had 2 loving daughters that came every day; One of

them would be there. They would help him do things. Eat,

go thru the home, everything.. Joe would get SO MAD! He

would actually YELL at his girls telling them "LET ME TRY
TO DO IT AT LEAST!!! "... he was so VERY right.. I admired

Joe, he tried...and when he knew he couldn't THEN he

would ask his girls or yell for a nurse... Its good to help and

to OFFER to help.. but let us try first.. we need this to keep

going...we need to know we still CAN TRY...

I have a friend, a amputee. Shes married to a very loving man.

When she lost her leg, shes a single above knee, her hubby

more or less took over. He doesn't WANT her to do anything.

He follows her everywhere, he does everything for her.. She

said to me "Lois, sometimes I feel I really CANT do anything,

my hubby doesn't think I can either.".. I asked the famous

question... "Are you TRYING yourself at all?" Seems the more

time goes on the more he does.. hes not realizing that we

NEED to try first, let us... we need to know that we can.. If

that feeling gets to me that I CANT do anything, when I get

into a "snit" as I call them.. I get mad at myself... I can do

anything.. just in a different and my OWN way...

Help is great.. When I was in my manual... hey.. PUSH ME !!

save my arms ! Offer, don't just do it though... That's the

polite way to do it.. Let us try, like Joe said "Hell.. I aint

DEAD yet, I can do it".. This Dearie was in his wheel chair

all day, they had like cushion thing in front of him, cuz he

couldn't be trusted not to try to get out of that chair!.

He sat and steady dug and pulled at that thing in front of

him.. gave him something to do.. Like Helen.. ...

I don't know what she did before.. but she LOVED keys..

any she saw, no matter where they were or who they belonged

to, she would take them.. Finally the nurses got her her own

keys.. This lady would go room to room, and any door that had

a key hole, she would try her key. Kept her busy trying to find

the door that key opened.. None in that building :-) but she

didn't know.. and she TRIED though... every day, she would

do this.. I wonder what she would have done IF she had found

the door that key unlocked ? :-) Would she stop trying? We

have to keep that in us.. if its taken away.. then we stop and

then we die.... doing nothing- is that NOT dying?

Rainy day today, yesterday was beautiful I had my doors open

and the fresh air was great.. I am really worried about the

black kittie.. so much so I'm ready to go over there and ask

them where it is ... I watch for it and Ive not seen it hardly

at all.. Yesterday I didn't and so far today I havent.. I'm

hoping its a female and she has babies... I'm gonna have to

find out.. the saga of this black kittie needs to be solved !

I just hope its ok. I enjoyed watching that cat.. just like I

do mine... Who, by the way, are being totally MEAN to each

other .. acting more like brother and sister than 2 brothers,

the way theyre fighting.. every day... if one doesn't start it,

the other will !!.. kids... :-)

Well, I'm gonna go do some sewing or at least clean up the

mess I made yesterday :-) Plus I'm hungry, of course. I

have NO idea what I'm gonna have either.. I always find

something though.. Time to close and post this for today,

but.. cant with out my GORGEOUS WEEBLE "g'day,g'day"

Y'all have a good one now, Y'hear? love ya and Thanks...

Always, Lois ****

"God Bless You", is my prayer today,

I'm honored to call you "friend".

I pray the Lord will keep you safe,

Until I write again...