ButterflyLois

Amputee life before and after...

Monday, April 10, 2006

~Great Feed Back~

There were some wonderful comments on last nights blog.
and I sure thank you for them..I just think..that this is something
that we should discuss..It used to be such a hidden issue this
devotee thing...and I think its just sort of gotten out of hand..I
think the ones that call themselves devs..and do some of the
outrageous things they do or the disrespect they show us by
how they treat our photos and put them where ever they want
with NO disregard for the person who the picture belongs to.
That they didnt perhaps have permission to post photos on
a yahoo group or on their own personal website Those I dont
consider them devotees or admirers myself..Those are the
ones that have NO respect...I know if they didnt do that then the
ones that DO like to collect photos..would not have so many to
choose from..but well right is right...

Being a Devotee is NOT a bad thing..Its NOT..and no one will
convince me otherwise..But its like I have said..there are good
and bad in no matter who or what we are..devotee. amputee,
able bodied...whatever...it all amounts to that one word......
RESPECT... This is such an interesting thing..I would LOVE to
sit at a huge table with devotees there and amputees to talk
about this and maybe TRY to figure it out..be most interesting
I think...I think this would be more beneficial to alot of people
than showing that show about Wannabes.. So many young men
are afraid to say they are a devotee/admirer because of the
things they have heard said that they are BAD people..I know a
boy 17..says he is a Dev..but has found out not too many amps
like devs..Thats sad that he has to feel guilty for honest feelings
and I have chatted to others that sometimes feel guilty because
they have feelings for amputee women..I think thats so sad ...
why? Do you feel guilty because you have feelings for candy?
or fast car or fishing? its a feeling...and its honest and its yours..
We all have that right...to FEEL...

I wish there was a easy answer to this..and I think the more of us
that are willing to openly discuss this..the better..ME? hell- I talk
about everything..thats the only way to keep the air clean..and I
say what I think...its my own opinion..but still its me...sometimes-
hardly ever though lol.i may be wrong and I will admit it...But I
hate when nice people are made to feel badly about honest
feelings they have...its not right... I wouldnt spit on the bad devs
if they were on fire..they know who they are...but the nice guys
like I know? well hey..Dont bad mouth them to me, cause you will
just make me pissy :-) so there lol...Fair Warning lol...

Well this has been a few interesting days with all this stuff.. But
ive enjoyed all the feed back ive gotten from this..I really have- I
wish we could all discuss it more openly but I dont think there
will be a solution because there are some that will NEVER
understand it..I dont think it needs explained I dont think anyone
needs to be labeled anything other than HUMAN...

Well this weebly human is rolling right into that kitchen and finding
some food..I didnt even take time to eat lunch .. I down loaded that
google earth today and WOW is that amazing..I went ALL over
the world today ..I had a ball..I zoomed in on lots of stuff ..The free
version is good but some places you cant see real clear its kinda
blurry ..they have a paid version too 30 dollars i think..so i think if
you get the paid version might clear up the blurries lolol.. but it is
neat what you can see...I tapped my own self right on the head!!!
I waved at Raife too I saw him standing out in his yard waving at
me hahaha no no JK JK its NOT that detailed..lol..but it was so
interesting to see..downloaded fast too.. OHOH..I hear something
calling..yup..its my fridge sayin "LOISSSS..we have FOOD in
here !!! " lol..i better go or it will yell all night lol :-) you know how
fridges are ... nitey nite...

Y'all have a good one now Y'hear? LUV YA!!! and thanks bunches!


Always, Lois****

May God Bless you today,
I'm so honored to call you friend,
I pray the Lord will keep you safe,
Until I write again...

4 Comments:

  • At 4:18 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Dear Lois,
    Thank you for the warmth and understanding that you show to us admirers. It is SO reassuring that we know that someone tries to understand.Believe me, it is not easy, being an admirer. You have to guard your words and not show too much interest in or knowledge of amputees, though I try to point out some of the problems they have, to the extent that I have tried to do the washing up or meal preparation using just one hand - yes, you can peal a potato, but its very difficult!!
    As always, your weblog is full of interest, so thank you again and Bless you. Take care, my dear. Lots of love and hugs from
    Raife

     
  • At 8:13 AM, Blogger Lois said…

    Good Morning Raife, Thank you :-) We are all just people..thats ALL that should matter isnt it? Some have to make it so hard for the others, too bad we ALL cant play nicely in this sand box .. :-)

    Hope your cough is better..Luv ya...
    Always, Lois****

     
  • At 11:09 AM, Blogger Gray said…

    I worry also about younger devs. I am very aware of the mistakes I made then and hope that younger devs don't replicate them.

    Most of all I recommend that they are courageous, honest, and up front about themselves. They should risk rejection and not be too shy to approach amputees they like. They should reveal about being a dev early in the relationship. If they are rejected, it is much more ethical and in the end easier on all if it happens early. But rejection is only a possibility, and well worth the risk for the right person.

     
  • At 12:01 PM, Blogger Lois said…

    Hi Gray, Yes, I agree...but thats for any Dev.. be honest..state who you are, then NO ONE spins their wheels so to speak...
    many devs, no matter what the age have- at one time felt guilty and thats a shame for having an honest feeling..

    I told my little man, that exact thing..be open and honest..and thats the ONLY way to be...and that goes for anything. I hope I helped him a little bit..

    I know there are so many amputees that are so bitter and I cant blame them.. its sad that they feel that way but they have been hurt and lash out then at anyone else in the same "catagorie" ..its not fair..but thats how it is. I have been hurt many times quite badly, that have caused me alot of grief..but I didnt let it bias me to everyone else.. thats not fair, everyone deserves a chance.. :-)

    thanks for a great post Gray and Raife, and all of you who have commented on this..its a real issue tho and I dont think it will EVER be
    resolved ..sadly...

    Y'all have a nice day :-)
    ALways, Lois****

     

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